What is it about a man’s perception that asking for help is a form of weakness rather than a strength? In a society based on individuality and helping yourself, it may seem strange to expect men to find ways to ask for and receive the support needed. There are many reasons men do not request help on a physical, mental and emotional level. Some of them may include:
Appearing Needy
One of the greatest reasons why it is difficult for men to ask for help is they do not want to appear burdensome or needy to their friends and family. Many think that they are putting someone out when they ask for help. That is rarely the case. People are more willing to help than you realize.
Are Not Aware of Needing Help
Although this seems like a no-brainer, it is worth mentioning that sometimes men have a blind spot in their lives. They do not see the wake that is being left behind so they “don’t know what they don’t know.” It may feel like an uphill battle, when family and friends are trying to convince them to seek help.
Don’t Want Accountability
Many men are aware that help is needed but they may not be ready for the accountability yet. If they reveal that there are issues, they are letting someone else in and are going to regularly ask about the progress in that area. Many men hide their issues as they truly believe they have freedom to do whatever they want. Emotionally, they wish they were free from that issue.
Finances
It’s no secret that the financial security of their family is at the top of a man’s priority list. So, recognizing the value in resolving a personal challenge may prove difficult. Asking for professional help is not only a financial investment, but an investment in the well-being of your family.
Emotions
Historically, men did not talk about their emotions. Today the stigma still exists, that “real men” do not whine about their emotional, physical or financial problems. They simply “suck it up” and figure it out. This has resulted in men having difficulty describing their feelings. Many dismiss their emotional problems as nuisances that they can solve without help. Unfortunately, leaving some issues unresolved can lead to more serious emotional challenges, like depression.
Weakness
Weakness is another reason why it may be difficult for men to ask for help. Their thoughts may be that, if they share their struggles, they will look weak and people will consider them to be broken. The mentality may be that, since they are adults, they should automatically know how to manage the situation. Many men don’t want to admit that they don’t know what to do.
Society is not asking men to wear their hearts on their sleeve. In fact, reaching out for help speaks to your confidence and strength as a man. It is important for men to know that physical, mental or emotional issues do not have to be tackled alone. At Isaiah Counseling & Consulting, we have experienced male and female therapists who offer Counseling for Men in Charlotte, NC.
If you have any questions or would like more information about Counseling for Men in Charlotte, NC, please do not hesitate to contact us.
